Dress for Elderly Ladies

I read the following article this morning and was struck by its truth. Even one generation ago women would never have dressed the way many do now. I mostly wear dresses although pants are a must, in my opinion, in the garden. And I'm not advocating, like the author, that all older women should cast off their sweat pants etc. for a dress. Though one may not agree with everything, it still has some food for thought. And really, aren't you captivated by a well-groomed elderly women not trying to appear 20 years younger or hip?!


(Picture features my mom as a little girl c.1923 with her aunt.)



From http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.com/
Reader FavoritesFeminine Appearance for Older Women


By Mrs. Stanley Sherman



What has happened to the concept of "growing old gracefully?" You've probably read a lot of "what-is-this-world-coming-to" articles about the unfeminine and immodest appearance of young women, but have you taken a good look at the older women lately? From a distance, most of them cannot be distinguished from old men. The typical "older woman" uniform seems to consist either of combat pants and boots, tee shirts, shaved hair styles, and expensive manicures or jogging suits and/or spandex. Trousers are the least-flattering garment for an older or elderly woman's figure. To make matters worse, most elderly women no longer wear supportive foundations, and their clothing bags and sags, making them look like a jumble of jello. We realize everyone wants to be comfortable, but must it be at the expense of femininity and beauty? And must it be such an eyesore to the public? If women want to be held in high regard in society, the older women must set the example by dressing with dignity. The appearance of our elderly women in modern America is simply awful!Older women have a place in society as wise counselors and examples to the young. They should be showing, by their example and appearance, that life is beautiful and good. Without saying a word, they influence the young, either in a positive or a negative way. One of the reasons women of our century do not look forward to getting older is the bad example of the elderly women they see before them.Older women need to have the kind of appearance and attitude that inspires the younger women to say, "When I get old, I want to be just like her!" If their clothing, hair, and skin are repulsive in appearance, the young women will not be drawn to them. It is true that we are supposed to appreciate the inner beauty of others, but it is also a fact that we live in a physical world with a physical body that must be groomed and taken care of. It is our "equipment for life." If older women have a message to the young, they must first remove the barriers of a slovenly and unflattering appearance.Take, for example, the antiques that we admire. Are they valued and appreciated as much if they are just allowed to sit, uncared for, deteriorating from day to day, without being cleaned or shined? "Shabby Chic" aside, antiques bring us more enjoyment when they are repaired, cared for, restored, painted, and polished. Even a small table with chipped paint looks better when it is graced by a vase of fresh flowers.

As we grow older, our faces may develop wrinkles. One thing older women should know is that shaved, spiked, short, frizzy hair only emphasizes these wrinkles more. Compare such hair styles to the graceful, soft waves of a truly feminine hairstyle. Bangs, or "fringes," make older women look younger, and they hide a multitude of worry lines. Hair dyes that are too dark, such as jet black, are very unnatural looking and make the skin appear more worn out and unhealthy.Hairdressers and so-called fashion consultants are known to tell older women that short hair will give them a kind of face-lift. However, there are some older women who have dared to let their hair grow a little longer, gathering it into a French roll or knot, demonstrating that long hair, when it is upswept, can create an even better face lift. Some of these women say that when they let their hair grow longer, they felt much younger and more optimistic. To achieve a soft, youthful appearance, older women need to stay away from the radical styles of the youth. Knobbly knees and wrinkled thighs are not attractive and only "tell" your age. The best disguise for older women is a beautiful dress! Dresses come in all kinds of shapes and styles and can be used to create visual slenderness and hide figure flaws such as saddlebags, thick waists, and protruding tummies. Appropriate shoes are essential to complete this kind of dressing, and you won't have to worry about comfort. There are very comfortable shoes available that can be worn with dresses without looking like you are off to a sporting event. Older women, do you ever feel depressed about the era we are living in? Do you wonder when it is going to be fashionable and acceptable to wear pretty clothes and hats? In my opinion, older women have to lead the way in restoring true womanhood. We can't expect the young women to develop a sense of dignity and grace if the older women are walking around in sweat pants and windbreakers, looking gender neutral. I feel sorry for young women these days. They haven't got much to look up to in the way of example in dressing, so they mimic the film stars or buy what they see on the rack. There are millions of women over the age of 50 in our society. They don't know the power they could have to change the sorry state of the appearance of modern women. We don't have to have a peer group to give us courage. If only one woman decides to change, it may influence several other women to change. Not long ago, I complimented an older woman I saw in a grocery store. She was wearing a sage green dress with pin-tucks at the bodice. Her pure white hair was secured by a silver clip. I told her how nice she looked and thanked her for helping to make America beautiful. She replied that she used to wear jeans all the time, then one day she decided she wasn't going to do it anymore. Life is too short not to spend your later years dressed beautifully. There just isn't time to wait for it to become popular. Do it now, and leave some lovely photographs for your descendents. Your life isn't over yet; there is a future and a hope for you, too!Young women need to avoid getting into the habit of dressing badly in their youth. The way you dress now will become the way you end up looking as an elderly person. It may seem kind of "cool" to dress in dirty jeans now, but think what it will look like on you when you are old, gray, and wrinkled. It is not a pretty sight! Think carefully what you do as a young person, for that will be how you will end up as an older woman. Get acquainted with clothing and all its aspects now. Learn all you can about dressing appropriately, so that it will be automatic when you are older.

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Soul Winters

I think that there might be seasons of the soul. Spring in the soul is when everything is new and fresh and filled with the promise of growth.

Summer is the warm, growing, luscious time of the soul. It is filled with joy and expectation. Rapid growth can be observed, like in a garden.

Autumn is that time of the soul for reflection, to enjoy the still warm and colorful days of this time of year and life.

Winter can be a time of cold and alienation. It has days that are dark and dreary, interspersed with bright, white days of beauty. It can be a prolonged period of reflection and growth, though unseen. Or it can be a time of bleakness in which the unseen is unknown and forgotten.

Living in a place with four distinct seasons is a blessing. I don't like winter so maybe that is why I portray it as bleak. I love the bright, hot, windy days of summer. The time when all is growing and you can see it! Oh, I know the analogy breaks down horribly, but I DO sometimes feel like I am in a soul winter.

Praise God that the seasons come and go and so will a winter of the soul.

Study in lines: sky, horizon, cottonwood

On a lovely summer's day I took this photo from where our house used to be before Devils Lake grew by thousands of acres.

Growing up near the shores of the lake provided me with many lovely memories.

The smell of water, the sound of waves on the shore, the rustling of cottonwood leaves and the stunning brightness of the sun reflecting off the water...these memories will never leave me.

Love and Fear

If perfect love casts out fear...and it does
And if God loves us with a perfect love...and He does
THEN we need have no fear of our Heavenly Father. Reverence, awe, respect...yes, but fear, no.

He has chosen us to be His own with a love that is perfect. We can depend on Him to remain faithful in His love toward His children.

With that perfect love we can walk confidently through any valley and climb any mountain, float through any sea of doldrums, march with victory through every battle, shuffle through any tedious task, overcome any challenge, live through our darkest days and still come out into the light, and enter boldly the throne room of grace.

We needn't be afraid anymore!

Snatched from EE...sobering, chilling!

Elisabeth Elliot's Daily Devotional

Title: Give Them Parking Space, But Let Them Starve to Death
Author: Elisabeth Elliot

Another moral threshold was crossed when a tiny baby boy, at the specific request of his parents and with the sanction of the Supreme Court of Indiana, was starved to death in a hospital. "Infant Doe" (he was not allowed the usual recognition of being human by being named), born with Down's syndrome and a malfunctioning esophagus (the latter could have been corrected with surgery), died, as the Washington Post (April 18) stated, "not because he couldn't sustain life without a million dollars worth of medical machinery, but because no one fed him." For six days the nurses in that Bloomington hospital went about their usual routines of bathing and changing and feeding all the newborns except one. They bathed and changed Baby Doe but they never gave him a bottle. Over his crib was a notice, DO NOT FEED. Several couples came forward, begging to be allowed to adopt him. They were turned down.

What went on in that little box during those six terrible days and nights? We turn our imagination away. It's unthinkable. But if I were to think about it, and put down on paper what my mind saw, I would be accused of playing on people's feelings, and of making infanticide (yes, infanticide--call it what it is) an "emotional issue." Let me suppose at least that the baby cried--quite loudly (at first). One report says that he was placed in a room alone, lest his crying disturb others (others, perhaps, who were capable of helping him).

Joseph Sobran, in his column in the Los Angeles Times Syndicate, suggested that "opposition to infanticide will soon be deplored as the dogma of a few religious sects who want to impose their views on everyone else." The language sounds sickeningly familiar.

There has been a conspicuous silence from those who usually raise shrill protest when other human rights are violated--the rights of smokers, homosexuals, and criminals are often as loudly insisted upon as those of children, women, and the handicapped.

The handicapped? What on earth is happening when a society is so careful to provide premium parking spaces to make things easier for them, but sees no smallest inconsistency when one of them who happens to be too young to scream, "For God's sake, feed me!" is quietly murdered? It is in the name of humanity, humaneness, compassion, and freedom that these things occur, but never is it acknowledged that the real reasons are comfort and convenience, that is, simple selfishness. "Abortion not only prefers comfort, convenience, or advantage of the pregnant woman to the very life of her unborn child, a fundamentally good thing, but seeks to deny that the life ever existed. In this sense it is a radical denial not only of the worth of a specific life but of the essential goodness of life itself and the Providential ordering of its procreation" (R.V. Young, "Taking Choice Seriously," The Human Life Review, Vol. VIII, no. 3.)

But weren't we talking about infanticide and haven't we now switched to abortion? The premises on which abortion is justified are fundamentally the same on which infanticide is seen as civilized and acceptable. What Hitler used to call eugenics is now called "quality of life," never mind whether the life in question happens to be the mother's or the child's. Death, according to three doctors who put the issue out into the open in the New England Journal of Medicine in 1973, is now considered an option in the "treatment" of infants; in other words, a mortuary may now replace the nursery. One cannot help thinking of the antiseptic "shower rooms" of the Third Reich, where the unwanted were "treated" to death. Nor can one forget the words of Jesus, "Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me" (Matthew 25:40, KJV).

Can any Christian argue that the smallest and most defenseless are, by virtue merely of being too small and too defenseless, not His brethren?

Is this the stuff of nightmares?

What is this? We found it in one of our cultures made from slough water and egg yolk. That rear appendage or whatever it is can completely retract into the body. The portion of the body pointed at seems to have cilia or somethings like that. The longer we had it under the microscope the slower it got until it died.

Let me know.

I hear the tsk, tsk, tsking over that day care article!

I've read so many studies and research results from daycare inquiries that I thought I would just post this prologue.

In 2007 a study funded by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development tracked 1,364 children and found that those who had attended some kind of preschool program scored higher on factors of aggression and disobedience; it was true even for kiddies in high quality center-based care. And the longer the time spent in such facilities the more likely the child would be labeled as disobedient and argumentative with a propensity to fight.

A 2002 study by the same group with 1300 kids from 10 different states found that children who spend more hours per week in non-parental childcare have more behavior problems, including aggressive, defiant and disobedient behavior.

David Elkind, author of Miseducation: Preschoolers at Risk, states, "There is no evidence that early instruction has lasting benefits, and considerable evidence that it can do lasting harm."

E. Ziglar, co-founder of Head Start states, "There is a large body of evidence indicating that there is little if anything to be gained by exposing middleclass children to early education. ...evidence...indicates early schooling is inappropriate for many four-year-olds and that it may even be harmful to their development."

And this does not even address the many health risks involved. Maybe I'll discuss that later.

Daycare for wee folks

I was chatting recently with someone about the daycare dilemma in the U.S. Not too long ago several closed in the Fargo-Moorhead area and a general screech and lamenting sigh was heard from those who think kids are better off in daycare.

It's is very hard for me to imagine that anyone could even think that their little ones would be better off cared for by a generally poorly paid stranger and a stranger whom often has many other little ones in her care at the same time. How could we have gotten to the place in America where the past two, maybe even three, generations of women have been duped into thinking that this is okay.

Research has been done on this subject. The real findings, if one can wade through all the 'thinkspeak' are that daycare produces insecure, often sickly, and sometimes really mean children. Well, think about it: if your little one from the time of infancy is placed with folks, no matter how well meaning, who must oversee 10 others or maybe 20 others, how much care will your little one get? And that's not the worst of it, even if you discount the diseases found in such places and the aggressive natures developed (let's face it-there is a pecking order!) what about the fact that a whole culture could think a paid provider is better than mom?

That's really screwy thinking. Strangers better than mom? Institutionalization better than a loving home? Factory-prepared meals fed and eaten in shifts, and in a hurry? Even a PB & J with mom is superior in every way to a government licensed food program.

The other interesting thing found in research is that though some may think this prepares them to be learners, it doesn't appear to be so. In fact, it prepares them to be institutionalized from K-12 and it teaches them to keep their place in the pecking order.

One other thing that really bugs me: since corporeal punishment of any kind is no longer allowed, how do they keep the little ones in line? Shame and humiliation. It works, but it is an awful thing to do to a child. How much better that a loving parent (and I mean LOVING...someone willing to lay down their very life for this wee one!) holds, teaches, feeds, encourages, comforts and cares for the child.

Yah, we've come a long way, baby, but it hasn't been a good way.

Apples galore!

We have been blessed this fall with an abundance of apples given to us by a family with two luscious apple trees. So grandma has been busy making applesauce and we now have almost 100 jars sitting on the basement pantry shelves.

How in the world did gals do this before there were apple peeler/corers?

Bill and I finished the last of the saucing on Saturday.

We are blessed, we are blessed, we are blessed!

Benedictions

Have you ever noticed how often we exhort one another to do this or do that? We are forever giving advice, weighing in on a subject, commanding or chastising, correcting or cautioning.

So I got to thinking about this al0t because I have discovered over the past 6 decades that most of the time people don't care what you think. They really aren't interested in corrections rather they want someone to agree with them, confirm a behaviour or pat them on the back.

Considering what a thorn in the flesh I have been to many people in my life I am trying hard to "aspire to live quietly, work diligently with my hands and to mind my own business!" It's not that easy, of course. So since I believe that Scriptures have the absolute answer for every dilemma I thought I would take a look at how the apostle Paul addressed folks. If anyone had a right to speak, to chastise etc. etc., I guess it was the apostle Paul. But I was particularly touched and humbled and encouraged as I looked through his various letters. They are full of imperatives for successful Christian living, but that is just part of it. They are seasoned with wonderful benedictions and the fact that he repeated them in most of his letters seems to imply that they are important.

Following is brief list:

Romans 1:7b - Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
I Cor. 1:3 - Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
I Cor. 16:23-24 - The grace of our Lord Jesus be with you. My love be with you all in Christ Jesus.
II Cor. 1:2 - Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
II Cor. 13:14 - The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.
Galatians 1:3 - Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
Eph. 1:2 - Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
Phil. 1:2 - Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.
Col. 1:2b - Grace to you and peace from God our Father.
I Thess. 1:1c - Grace to you and peace.
II Thess. 3:16 - Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times in every way.
I Timothy 1:2b - Grace, mercy and peace from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord.
II Timothy 1:2 - Grace, mercy, and peace from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord.

When you read them all together it leaves an impression that maybe Paul thought that grace, mercy and peace were really important.

Clearly they are and by God's grace, I want to exude grace, mercy and peace. It is what I want to pour out on others. Let someone else do the admonishing; I'm not that good at it anyway.

So grace, mercy and peace to you from our dear Lord Jesus.

Who is this?

Who can this be?

A young, slim, blonde (?) woman with a gorgeous red-headed child.

It was the 70s and I was young. Aimee was about the cutest, sweetest, most precious blessing I would ever see in this world. And so it is.

How I Ought to Act

Frankly, what I know to do I often don't do and what I know I ought not do I do. Not very original thought and certainly no revelation to anyone who has read Paul's letters. Makes the rejoice mandate a bit difficult at times. But God's sweet and holy Word gives us plenty of 'to dos' so that we will learn to do and to be what He has planned for us to do and be since before the foundations of the world.

What I ought to do:

• pursue love (ICor. 14:1a)~ the word 'pursue' implies that I am going to have to work at this and it is going to be a footrace requiring huffing, puffing and determination; I don't really like the thought of that as it really leaves no room for sloth! Precious Lord Jesus, give me strength and endurance to pursue the better thing.
• not be childish in my thinking (that's a lot different than being child-like!) and I am to be an infant in evil, but mature in my thinking (I Cor. 14:20) ~ it's not that easy to be an infant in evil in our current culture, actually in any culture; for those who think we are more evil than any preceeding generation, century, millenium etc. then you have not read enough history! I want to be an infant in evil, but that must be a work of God as I have dabbled way too much in evil thoughts, actions, study, companions etc. to return to an infant way of thinking about evil. Please, Lord Jesus, have your way.
• be steadfast, immovable, ALWAYS abounding in the work of the Lord (I Cor. 15:58) ~ I can be so stubborn (the sin side of steadfast!) when I want to be; I mean really, really stubborn. So why is steadfastness such a struggle about things that really matter. Most of what I have been opinionated about, and I might add, hurt others' feelings over, isn't worth the price of ink in a cheap ballpoint pen. I beg you, dear Lord Jesus, make me steadfast about worthy things.
• take every thought captive to OBEY Christ (2 Cor. 10:5) ~ Every thought? I can only imagine how much work this will be. My mind is constantly working, thinking, mulling, answering, cogitating and pondering. This must, too, be a work of God in a believer's life. My sweet gentle Shepherd, set a guard at my lips and watch over my mouth.
• Rejoice, aim for restoration, comfort one another, agree with one another, live in peace (2 Cor.13:11a) Well, now there's a life-long pursuit. I am learning to rejoice often and to see even in pain that it is possible to rejoice. I have found it easier and easier to comfort others as I have experienced more and more pain, loss, betrayal, and sorrow. I think that's probably God's good plan for me. I don't always like it and I have been known to kick and scream, plead and beg, bargain and threaten to quit. Yet God's mercies are new every morning. I want more than almost anything to live in peace. I grew up without much peace, some of my own doing, and the older I get the more pleasant and inviting is the quest for peace. I have even begun to firmly avoid the contentious (I used to love a good verbal sparring!) and to seek rather a meek and gentle spirit (never been a natural part of my makeup). I want to aim for restoration and to be able to agree, living in peace with all, as much as lies within me. Dear faithful Bread of Life, hear me as I plead for these good gifts from your generous Hand.
• rejoice in the lord (Phil 3:1) and rejoice in the Lord always, again I say, rejoice (Phil. 4:4) If this ol' whining, complaining, belly-aching mortal can learn to rejoice (and I do it often these days) then it must be the work of our wonderful Lord Jesus through His benevolent Holy Spirit; it is definitely not a part of my nature!

So.....there's an assignment for life. And it's only the beginning. The list could, of course, go on and on. Since we are no longer under the law and since Christ perfectly fulfilled the law so that we now operate under grace, we can be confident that He who began a good work in us will surely complete it. And if that isn't exciting enough, we can now openly, boldly and with confidence enter the throne room and speak directly with our dear Lord Jesus. Think of it...directly...no intermdiary necessary...Jesus is the intermediary and He welcomes us without shame or humiliation.

Now that's something to rejoice about.